Cupid may be stupid, but don't F- up guys!

Guys and single men/women all hate Valentine's Day.

This is an article for the men - don't F- up on Valentine's. You hate it, you think its dumb and a commercial holiday... but your woman loves it. Probably because its one of the times in a year that you HAVE to show her how much you love/like her.

Here are a couple pointers guys (from the experts, since I'm clueless, too).

DON'T...

• Follow the Herd - Most lovers appreciate a little one-on-one time on this particular day. So, don't even think about suggesting that the two of you join a small army of friends for "a couple of beers" and some loud club music.
  
• Be a Cliché - Red roses are pretty, sure. Chocolates taste good, yup. But don't do both, unless you add in something unique. Differentiate your relationship from every other one out there. A big bowl of garden-fresh gardenias or a sweet bunch of colorful Gerber daisies speak volumes over a dozen been-there-done-that red roses. She will appreciate when you think outside the chocolate box.

DO...

• Get Crafty - Make a homemade card or collage, design a T-shirt at the copy shop with an inside joke, or log onto Snapfish or iPhoto and design a do-it-yourself photo album -- it's fun to create and affordable, too.
  
• Mix It Up - Make a mixed CD of favorite songs. This is a gift that carries a lot of weight. It's thoughtful and requires some decent time to make it -- brownie points for you!
  
• Woo Chez Vous - Invite your loved one to your place for a perfect evening in. Make pasta together, grill steaks and potatoes, or just order in a pizza, open a bottle of tasty wine, and light lots of candles. Afterwards cuddle up on the sofa and watch a movie over a pint of decadent ice cream with a shared spoon. What could be better? Remember, V-Day doesn't have to be fancy.
  
• Go Sweet 'n' Sexy - Sure, buy her lingerie. Most women will love it. But stick with sweet little somethings and avoid the satin cheesy stuff. You can't miss with soft cotton chemises, a few pairs of Hanky Panky panties, or a sexy silk robe.
  
• Book 'Em - Books are always a great give -- personal, thoughtful, and classy. Inscribe a sweet note in it, and you'll win someone's heart for sure.

Now for the ladies -- a couple hints (if you don't want to BECOME single on V-Day)...

Don't make the day a "Bling Thing." Even the slightest hint that you're expecting an engagement ring can make him run for cover. Unless you think it's time to get rid of him, avoid any ring talk.

Along similar lines, if your partner is unsure of what to get you and wants your input, avoid mentioning ultra-pricey precious gemstones and metals, timepieces, or exotic trips, especially if you recently started dating. It's just not cool, especially during these challenging economic times. There are other ways that he can make you feel like a queen - without the pressure of price tags.

Have a good time...